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IS LOVE BLIND? |
No Love is not
Blind , but Infatuation is !
Infatuation, like other extreme emotions
such as anger, hate, and fear, distorts
thinking. Only the passing of time will
bring about gradual return to reality. When
the ideal bubble bursts - and burst it will
- pain and disillusionment sets in.
Again, it pays to be honest. Much of
the pain and tragedy of romantic infatuation
could be avoided if the couple would level
with themselves and with each other.
Instead, they hide their faults and misled
the other into thinking they are something
they are not.
For this they pay an awful price. Perhaps
the most important reason for
self-disclosure is that without it we cannot
truly love. How can I love a person I don't
know? How can the other person love me if he
doesn't know me? The answer: HONESTY IS A
MUST.
Time is the infatuated person's best friend.
It is both the great revealer and the great
healer. When your heart has been broken,
time will heal the hurt.
Time also is the best antidote for the
deadly poison of idealization. As
interaction increases, knowledge converts
the dream image into awareness of the real
partner. Awareness punctures the dream
bubble and brings the relationship down to
earth. Time can shield you from plunging
into an unsound marriage on the strength of
a mere infatuation. Love that is time tested
is the real thing. |
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