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Definitions of Love: |
Simple Infatuation: is often called a
"crush" or "puppy love." It commonly strikes
those in the early teens or younger. Usually
the object of infatuation is some highly
idealized person who is some years older it
could be the teacher, an uncle or aunt, a
friend of the family, an actor or actress.
Simple infatuation seldom lasts long. But
infatuated people may be greatly moved with
emotion. They spend much time in daydreams
and wishful fantasies.
Romantic Infatuation: is often called
"romantic love" or simply "love." It is a
mix of sex and emotion - not genuine love at
all. It will not of itself support a
marriage. It also leads to idealizing the
person, having a much stronger sex interest
in each other, and justifying a premature
marriage. Romantic infatuation is therefore
very dangerous because people will easily
fool themselves to act out their intense
feelings and sex urges. Romantic infatuation
is "false love," but it may develop into
real love, but it will take a lot of time.
Sex Interest: is a deep biological
drive that seeks some erotic expression. It
is possible for people to enjoy sex with
someone, yet have absolutely no other
interest in them except sensual
satisfaction.
Real Love: exists when your strong
tender feelings for the other are balanced
by reason and deep respect. You care just as
much for the other person's welfare and
fulfillment as you do for your own.
Judgments about the person are quite
objective and rational. The two of you have
many values and ideas in common. You share
similar goals and ideals. All these factors
will probably be able to support and sustain
a happy relationship over a long period of
time.
If you're infatuated, your emotions will be
in charge. In real love, your reason is
ruling your emotions. However, REAL LOVE and
ROMANTIC INFATUATION are easily confusing
people because they have one thing in common
- strong feelings of attachment to the other
person. Moreover, people in real love have
some degree of infatuation and infatuated
people have some degree of real love |
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